I wouldn't hate you for smoking anyway. I have to look at smoking that way for myself to remind me why I don't want to smoke. I quit about 5 years ago and then started again when I started hanging out with smokers again a lot... then quit when I wasn't....then started again when I was hanging out with smokers. But it's not just smoking that makes me want to stay away from the people in my list above. It's got more to do with just plain self abuse. Not just smoking, but drug use, self loathing, self destructive behavior.
I can tell you from experience that people change and grow, and drift apart from each other and sometimes come back into each others circles and sometimes not. You're in your 20's and that's a time when a lot of that happens because of the changes in family life and all that. It doesn't happen to everyone, you know? I mean not all your friends will drift away because of it. It just depends on individual personalities. Some of my friends when we grew up, and they got married, or had boyfriends, it seemed like they became their boyfriend and didn't have space for me any more. Others that didn't happen to. (some people are just better a managing their time and multitasking... and in some cases standing up to mates who don't want to take the time to get to know their girl's friends.) You're kind of ahead of the game. You've already got your little family, and are used to balancing your time with all that, and school and stuff. I don't know if that makes you feel any better about it. I have a friend (I just talked to her in fact about a birthday party of another mutual friend who we have both known since 7th grade or so.. )I think I was in 8th when I met the birthday girl who is in my class and the other was in 7th that year... or coming into 7th... not sure... too long ago... but the point is our friendship is old enough to buy booze. ^_~ And we have gone through some rough periods, and periods where we didn't have time for each other, or she didn't have time for me, or I didn't have time for her but it's endured for um... 27 (!!!! O_o just actually calculated this!!) years. Some of your friendships will too. This post is probably too long. I'll make another one..
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I can tell you from experience that people change and grow, and drift apart from each other and sometimes come back into each others circles and sometimes not. You're in your 20's and that's a time when a lot of that happens because of the changes in family life and all that. It doesn't happen to everyone, you know? I mean not all your friends will drift away because of it. It just depends on individual personalities. Some of my friends when we grew up, and they got married, or had boyfriends, it seemed like they became their boyfriend and didn't have space for me any more. Others that didn't happen to. (some people are just better a managing their time and multitasking... and in some cases standing up to mates who don't want to take the time to get to know their girl's friends.) You're kind of ahead of the game. You've already got your little family, and are used to balancing your time with all that, and school and stuff. I don't know if that makes you feel any better about it. I have a friend (I just talked to her in fact about a birthday party of another mutual friend who we have both known since 7th grade or so.. )I think I was in 8th when I met the birthday girl who is in my class and the other was in 7th that year... or coming into 7th... not sure... too long ago... but the point is our friendship is old enough to buy booze. ^_~ And we have gone through some rough periods, and periods where we didn't have time for each other, or she didn't have time for me, or I didn't have time for her but it's endured for um... 27 (!!!! O_o just actually calculated this!!) years. Some of your friendships will too. This post is probably too long. I'll make another one..